Wow that’s some bullshit?
How to be a shitty parent
how is this shitty parenting if i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there. Shit my mom would have been out looking for me.
Right? How is this shitty at all?? If i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there or else you aren’t allowed in the home. I care about my kids safety so much I’ll endanger them when they dont listen to me.
i do not have the energy to explain why this is a shitty thing to do but yeah it’s shit
I do! If you’re gonna be a vindictive little shit to your kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Having abusive parents like the ones up here fucked up my perception of love and affection.
I got locked out of the house all the time just like this poor kid. Do you know how fucking cold it gets at night? NO because you’re cushy and comfortable behind those decorated glass doors! I slept in 30 °F weather. I was on the swim team so I had to wake up and run with the team at 5 am then go to class. I’d wake up with frozen hair and bugs crawling on me. I’d start crying and it would rain fucking cold water. I had no friends in the neighborhood to go to. I’m still somewhat scared of the dark.
There’s wild animals and predatory strangers and shit out there. You’re gonna put your fucking CHILD in that situation and FAIL to be their guardian at one of the most important times of day just because they made it home late? Kids make fucking mistakes, and if you aren’t prepared for that, you shouldn’t even have pets. You’re not a caretaker, you’re a lazy abusive perfectionist snot. I’d kick your ass if you were my neighbor and I saw you pulling this shit! No joke!
My roommate talks all the time about how if her kids mess around she’d smack them around, but she and a LOT of other people do not understand that punishments like those are abuse. They fuck your kid up for life.
If you leave a kid out in the cold they’re more likely to get into more trouble/danger to keep warm anyway. Who’s gonna take your kid into their home? Do you even give a shit what happens to them? No because you wanted to play god and get back at someone who is still developing. Be a fucking adult.
Your kid is not a robot. It’s so shitty these parents have done this kind of stuff before and have NOT given the kid a blanket.
Neglect is the chronic inattention or omission on the part of the care giver to provide for the basic emotional and/or physical needs of the child, including food, clothing, nutrition, adequate supervision, health, hygiene, safety, medical and psychological care and education. Emotionally neglected children do not receive the necessary psychological nurturance to foster their own growth and development. The consequences of neglect can be very serious, particularly for young children. The child who does not receive adequate emotional, cognitive and physical stimulation, physical care and nutrition may experience lags in development. These lags in development may be irreversible.
SOME FORMS OF ABUSE & NEGLECT:
*Rejection, ignorance and isolation
*A lack of shelter
*Emotional neglect or lack of supervision
*Deliberate locking children out of the house
So if you think pulling this childish bullshit is ok, I will break into your house and steal whatever funds it takes to care for your child. I’ll fight you in the morning because you’re a garbage human being.
Stop teaching your damn kid they’re worthless. YOU made them.
Stop being your child’s enemy, start being their actual fucking caretaker.
Just so y’all know… in the state of Texas, this is grounds for me to call CPS on your ass.
And I will, too.
Same in Illinois and I fucking will.
TBH all the people coming out in support of locking kids outside for missing curfew need to just not have kids
Reminder that one of the victims of Ted Bundy (the serial killer) was locked out of her house because of missing curfew, and he offered his “help.”
This can get your child KILLED.
Also, not everyone chooses to get home late.
There may be traffic, or an accident of some kind, or they may simply have a shit sense of time or direction.
I hope that these parents got called out and arrested for child abuse.
Reblogging again bc i want to understand something. Is it a cultural aspect of americans (or anywhere this is happening) to NOT give your kids the house keys? Or is it some kind of suburban subculture?
Me, my friends, most people i know have the house keys since childhood. Mom gave me the house keys when I was 9. But i had a boyfriend once that was 21 (i was 19) and HE DIDN’T HAVE HIS HOUSE KEYS. And he lived fucking far away, it took him 2 hours to get to my house. And he had to leave early ON HIS FUCKING BIRTHDAY or he would be locked out of the house by his dad.
Like, wtf is wrong with people??? Why would you do that to your kids??? “Oh, you’re not home and safe when I wanted you to, so now you’ll stay out and unsafe because I want to. Also, you have no right to have the keys for the house we live in”???
Is this what people think is normal???
It’s semi-common and shows up most often in authoritarian parenting that seeks to control every aspect of the child’s life. Rather than a right, house keys are a “privilege” that can be taken away. Ditto for phones, computers and, in extreme cases like this one that actively pole-vault over the child-abuse line, denial of “privileges” like food and shelter.
My brothers and I had house keys, living at my mom’s. At my dad’s? Nada. My best friend and I were out late some nights we hung out, just taking walks, and her parents? She had a key, but because there were other people sleeping and the dogs barked when the front door opened, the parents asked that anyone out after they locked the front door and went to bed come back in through the side gate and utility room’s outside door. I’ll grant you, several times we had to go in through the dog door when people locked that one, too. (She had older brothers and they sometimes did that to spite her.)
My mom’s place even had a rule that if you had a friend who got locked out, they had blanket permission to come crash at ours, as long as a parent was informed.
Any parent who thinks that they can lock their kid out at night as punishment forfeits their child to me.
For reasons that are way too long and kinda personal, I’ve dealt with these situations more than twice. I’ve also broken into my own home when I was locked out.
Anyone with a shitty arsed parent has me as their Mom/Mum now.
Those who do this shit can step on a lego and wipe their arse with sandpaper.
Y’all don’t need a child. You need fucking therapy.
Child neglect includes failure to provide shelter.
I found one case where a mother did this to her 13-year-old, locking him out of the house and refusing to provide a blanket or pillow. His older sibling sneaked out to give him that, and she decided to extend the boy’s punishment into the following day. The kid called the cops on her at that point.
I’m really fed up with hearing about this level of authoritarian parenting.
(Also really fed up with hearing about bedroom doors being taken away as a punishment, parents taking all of a child’s toys/possessions away either as a punishment or to be “minimalist,”
The only reason to remove a child’s bedroom door is when the temper-tantrum slamming gets out of control, and repeated warnings have not reduced the damage to the furniture. Then you replace it with a shower curtain for privacy, for a specific period of time.
You don’t lock a human being outside away from shelter and safety. Two entirely different things. One is discipline. The other is abuse.
I’m talking about door removal explicitly to deny privacy.
I’ve heard of people doing it to their adult children.
I’ve heard of families taking the door away at puberty and never giving it back to “make sure” their kids aren’t having sex/doing drugs.
I’m finding instances of doors being taken away because kids locked it while they were changing. And of kids not being allowed to lock the bathroom door while showering/changing.
Teenagers deserve not to have anyone, even their parents, see them naked without their permission.
oh hells no, that’s complete bullshit.
Yeah. Taking the door away and replacing it with a shower curtain I can see if you have a kid who just won’t stop slamming.
That sends a message. (While checking the horror stories I also found a parent who managed to stop door slamming by making her kid scrub something every time she did it).
The door stealing in most cases is not about sending a message, it’s about control.
